Casual catching up 101:
- No one wants to hear how much better than them you’re doing. Makes them jealous.*
- No one wants to hear how much worse than them you’re doing. Makes them feel awkward.**
- No one wants to hear you complain. After all, they’re the ones with the real problems. (Classic MOPE syndrome.)
- No one wants to hear you’re actually OK, despite everything. Many people find the emperor’s new outfit very fetching and don’t like to hear otherwise, especially if they’re working hard to obtain similar robes.
In brief, they don’t want to know.
Before I go on, I should point out that when I say ‘they’, I also mean, all too often, myself. What can I say – we all have our less than generous moments.
Basically, in this world, you need to be horribly overworked, and then maybe you’ll get to both complain and gloat. If you’re not overworked, you’re a lazy bugger and a freeloading bastard who needs to get his shit together.
I wish I could express this more eloquently. More ‘insights into our society’, less ‘the Monday morning blues of the unemployed’. Go read what Douglas Coupland says instead. It may be the future.
*Better with regard to their priorities, not necessarily yours.